Many people come to mediation because communication has broken down. The mediator’s role is to manage the discussion, keep it constructive and ensure both people have the opportunity to speak and be heard.

Not necessarily. Mediation can take place with both of you in the same meeting, or in separate rooms (often called shuttle mediation). Online mediation is also available, which many people find more comfortable and convenient.

The discussions in mediation are not legally binding. However, any agreements you reach can be written down and taken to a solicitor, who can help turn them into a legally binding agreement if you wish.

A MIAM (Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting) is an individual meeting with a mediator where you learn about the mediation process and discuss whether mediation is suitable for your situation. In many cases, attending a MIAM is required before applying to court.

Yes. Mediation is confidential and without prejudice. This means that what is discussed in mediation generally cannot be used later in court proceedings, allowing you to have open and constructive conversations.

The number of mediation sessions varies depending on the issues you need to discuss and how easily agreements can be reached. Many families resolve matters within two to four sessions, although some situations may take a little longer.

Each session usually lasts around 60–90 minutes, giving you time to work through the different topics at a manageable pace.

Mediation is flexible, so you can move at a speed that feels comfortable for both of you. Some people prefer to focus on one issue at a time, while others work through several areas in the same meeting.

The aim is not to rush decisions, but to support you in having constructive conversations and reaching clear, practical agreements that will work for your family going forward.

Yes. Mediation is voluntary, so both people need to be willing to take part. However, many people are open to trying mediation once they understand how the process works.

In most cases, mediation is significantly less expensive and much quicker than resolving matters through the courts. It also allows you to stay in control of the decisions that affect your family.

Mediation can help you discuss a range of issues, including:

• Where children will live and how they spend time with each parent

• Holiday and special occasion arrangements

• Child maintenance and financial support

• Property, savings, pensions and other finances

• How you will communicate and co-parent going forward